If I took away your favorite book from you you get mad at me right but would you go kill somebody over it? I don't think you would you wouldn't make a decision like that right? And even if you did could I have controlled your decision? No I couldn't have because you did it on your own I had no control over what you did so it's the same thing with your dad you couldn't control what he dick just because he was mad he did an extremely bad thing it has nothing to do with you because you didn't tell him to you didn't make him do it he did it on his own free will that's why he wanted to do so it has nothing to do with you because if you didn't tell him to do it you didn't make him do it then it isn't your fault it's his and only his